Darci Lang Focus on the 90%
March 2017 — What Do We Need To Practice?

In the book, “Modern Tales of Ancient Wisdom” Rhonda Victoor (one my favourite speaker friends) challenges me on how I look at the 10%s in my life.

When a 10% situation appears, either in a day-to-day small way or a big life event, I have always been the type of person who asks, “What am I supposed to learn from this situation?” I have spent many years pondering that question and learning the lessons. It has worked really well in my business, dealing with deaths in the family, my husband’s depression, my son’s anxiety and many other life lessons.

Rhonda’s question, "What do I need to practice?” challenges us to go a step further and put the lesson into action.

She lists a few of these words as suggestions; patience, respect, empathy, intuition, love for them, courage, self-care, quiet reflection, humility, trust and boundaries.

I have been trying that. When I feel faced with a 10% situation I now challenge myself with the question, “What do I need to practice?" I then observe the situation and move my magnifying glass to the 90% and ask, “Do I need to love this person? Do I need to create a boundary around this relationship? Do I need some self-care to better deal with this?” This helps me to learn the lesson and a new way to respond.

The next time you are faced with a 10% situation, ask yourself, “What might I practice here? How can this positive practice be an influence on the situation?"

Rhonda's book can be found here.

Deep breath.